Feb 12, 2012

My Valentine relationship...

And I? I have an unbelievable hate/hate relationship with Valentine’s Day since I was in my sweet sixteen years. I will not sit and give the all ‘classical’ excuse of those who claim they hate Valentine (probably because they never had a good one); the one, only and oh so repeated: “I hate Valentine because every day of the year should be a Valentine’s Day”.

Oh well no… Not every day is Christmas, not every night is New-Year’s eve, and not every morning you celebrate Easter or your birthday. Valentine? Well, it comes also once a year only, on February 14th.  And while the celebrations are spread all week long, this day hold the fresh smell of sparkling ‘butterfly’ feeling.

The hate I hold within? Is for how commercial this day has become through the years; When I was 16, a girl would expect a big inflated balloon with a dedicated card for Valentine’s day.  As years passes, the expectations grew into perfume, clothing, phones, laptops, trips, wee-end escapades, etc… And in my eye? The holiday lost its genuine value, he one of expressing the importance of your partner in your eyes and life, whether you two are in love or not.  Valentine has lost the importance of sharing a special time with your significant other and caring enough to make this day special, and about you two.

A friend of mine told me a few days back that she would hate receiving “just a card” for Valentine.  Another one asked me what she should get her boyfriend for the same occasion. And from the bottom of my hate relationship I answered: something genuine, something from you to him: a card, a flower, a letter, a book perhaps or a scarf you knit, or maybe even just a special picture. Anything that is valuable. Valuable for your relationship as a couple.

Feb 6, 2012

28 lessons I learned in 28 years...

Somewhere down my 28 years, I read quotes and saying about the lessons of life... hereby are the 28 I consider my own priorities, the lessons I learned till now...
  1. Life isn't fair. But it's still good!
  2. Life is too short to spend it hating someone.
  3. Everyone has a good and a bad side in him. No one bad. No one is an angel neither.
  4. Everything can change in a blink of an eye but don't worry: God doesn't blink.
  5. It's okay to be angry with God; He can take it!
  6. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.
  7. The more people criticize you, the more they envy you. Those who really are better are busy being better.
  8. Privacy is sacred. Cherish it...  Draw limits to everyone, no exceptions.
  9. If you want something, go for it. Do not take "no" for an answer... Same applies to people.
  10. Men and women come from one planet, earth. They are meant to live together and deal with one another; enjoy the coexistence.
  11. Smile before you open your eyes in the morning; you'll see rainbows all around when fully awake.
  12. Those who dare to show their tears are not weak; they are strong enough to face the eyes of those who think crying is a sign of weakness.
  13. Frame every "disaster" with a: "In 5 years, will this matter"?
  14. Believe in miracles.
  15. Forgive; forgive everyone, everything.
  16. Time heals everything, with no exception. Give time, time.
  17. Do not negotiate your dreams. Wake up and make them happen.
  18. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick, your friends will. Stay in touch.
  19. Children are the gift of God to us. Make their childhood memorable. Make it better than yours.
  20. A lost friend was never a friend at the first place; don't cry him.
  21. If you don't try, you will never have an answer.
  22. God loves you because of who and how God is; not because of who you are or what you did or did not do!
  23. Whatever does not kill you WILL make you stronger.
  24. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere (refer to #14).
  25. Life isn't tied with a bow. But it's still a gift.
  26. No matter how you fell: get up, dress up, show up.
  27. If you don't ask, you don't get.
  28. The best is yet to come.